“When my mother passed away about two years ago, I was able to sit with her … and be able to grab her hand and stroke her face, be present with her,” Farr told CNN’s Don Lemon on Friday night. “And I could comfort him as much as I have in my life.”
“My dad and I couldn’t do that because he was isolated,” Farr said.
He said his family could have practically said goodbye to his father, Marvin James Farr, the morning before he died.
“I’m glad I last met him to tell him how much I loved him, how much it mattered to me. But the moment you want to be able to do it, you want to be able to reach out to him, hold his hand, touch him, fill him as much time as you can. “
Farr’s story evokes the experiences of thousands of other families in the United States who, because of Covid-19 isolation protocols, had to say a final farewell from parents, siblings, and other family members through the device. More than 278,900 Americans have died since the pandemic began.
According to Farr, anger, fear, grief, and frustration were the reasons he wrote a powerful obituary for his father, highlighting the victims of the epidemic and some Americans ’rejection of public safety measures such as face masks.
“More than 260,000 Americans infected with Covid-19 preceded his death. He didn’t die in his own room, he was cared for by people dressed in a confused and frightening way. He died with Covid-19 and his last days were harder, scarier and more lonely. necessary, “said an excerpt from the obituary that Lemon read aloud.
His 81-year-old father was a veterinarian, Farr wrote. The science that governs his father’s professional life is now “despised and abandoned by many by the same people who depended on his knowledge,” he wrote.
“It’s weird,” Farr told Lemon, “that some Americans seem to be denying the science that leading health experts have mentioned in this pandemic.”
She says when she grows up, she remembers that medical professionals were highly respected and doctors and nurses were considered the most important members of the community in her hometown. They are now attacking the same people on social media who are “risking their own lives.”
“It is incomprehensible to me, it violates everything I feel like I grew up in honesty and caring for others,” he said. – And I learned these from my father.
His father, he wrote, “was born in America recovering from the Great Depression and is facing World War II, at a time of losses and casualties that most can imagine. Americans are being asked to provide basic supplies and send their children around the world to fight and die. incomprehensible in wars of destruction. “
“He died in a world where many of his American comrades refused to wear a piece of clothing on their faces to protect each other,” he wrote.
In many ways, Farr told Lemon that he felt his father’s death was a political feeling.
“When local city councils, when our state legislature, when they refuse to adopt policies that protect people, they made political decisions that resulted in people like my father dying as they are.”