The four words that changed forever

Dear Amy: I wanted to share my opinion about the “independent” woman she was offended when her compatriots visited her vacation home, cleaned it up and made some repairs.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan / Chicago Tribune)

My sisters and I always complained when my mother did something for us. One day my father said four words that clicked forever and changed, “Just say hello.”

Wow. This moment was magical for me.

If you don’t have to prove to others that you are in control, you are in better control.

When my parents visited, I learned to stop taking control and enjoyed whatever they were doing. My dad would have flown across the country with his basic toolbox and my mom would have brought him stuff too, including gloves! They really liked having projects in advance for them!