LONDON (AP) – The Princess of Sussex revealed she had a miscarriage in July and gave a personal account of the traumatic experience in the hopes of being able to help others.
Meghan described the miscarriage in an opinion article in the New York Times on Wednesday, writing that “when I was squeezing my firstborn child, I knew I was going to lose my second”.
Meghan Markle’s ex-husband and Prince Harry have an 18-month-old son, Archie.
The 39-year-old princess said she shares her story to help break the silence around an all-too-common tragedy. According to the British National Health Service, every eighth pregnancy in which a woman is aware that she is pregnant ends in a miscarriage.
“Losing a child means bringing an almost unbearable grief that many experience but few talk about,” Meghan wrote.
“When we are invited to share our pain, we take the first steps toward healing.”
In her astonishingly intimate account, the princess described a tragedy on a “morning that began as usual as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Consume vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before pulling my son out of his crib.
– After changing the diaper, I felt a sharp spasm. I fell to the ground in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep both of us calm, the cheerful melody in stark contrast to my sense that something is wrong.
He later said that “he was lying on a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the shells of his palm and kissed her thighs, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes flashed. I tried to imagine how we would heal.
Sophie King, a charity midwife who deals with child loss in Britain’s Tommy’s, says abortion and birth remain “a real taboo in society, so mothers like Meghan who share their stories are a vital step in eradicating this stigma and shame”.
“His honesty and openness today sends a strong message to everyone who loses their baby: it can be incredibly lonely, but you’re not alone,” King said.
Meghan, the American actress and star of the television legal drama “Suits,” married Harry, II, at a lavish ceremony in May 2018 at Windsor Castle. Granddaughter of Queen Elizabeth. His son was born the following year.
Earlier this year, the couple announced they would relinquish their royal duties and move to North America, citing the unbearable intrusion and racist attitude of the British media. They recently bought a house in Santa Barbara, California.
The Duchess is currently suing the publisher of the British newspaper Mail on Sunday for invasion of privacy for articles that published parts of a letter written after her estranged father’s wedding.
Last month, a London judge agreed to Meghan’s request to postpone the trial from January to the fall of 2021. The decision followed a private hearing and the judge said the reason for the request for delay should be kept secret.